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From Beth’s Kitchen: Patriotic 4th of July Trifle

By Beth Heeschen

The Fourth of July.  The celebration of the birth of our nation.  A time for patriotism, fireworks, parades, slow pitch softball games, and water guns.  A time for fire flies in mason jars, sparklers on the lawn, waving of flags, and musical tributes.  Picnics filled with grilled hamburgers, hot dogs, and chicken.  Overflowing sides of potato salad, corn on the cob, baked beans, seven layer salad, and watermelon.

Double Delight: the famous Jell-O flag mold as well as the USA (picture it in Jello-O)!

Double Delight: the famous Jell-O flag mold as well as the USA (picture it in Jello-O)!

AND… the absolutely essential, must-have… patriotic red, white, and blue dessert.  There are many forms this dessert can take.  Iowa, in the 1970’s, favored the layered Jell-O mold approach.  Yes, LAYERED PATRIOTIC JELL-O MOLD.  The white layer was some sort of cream cheese concoction.  It’s the stuff nightmares are made, that we ate by the bowlful.  Fortunately, the Jell-O Company expanded on this theme in the 1980’s, and invented the flag Jell-O mold, which they dispensed for free in your neighborhood grocery store. So thoughtful of them.  It consisted of red Jell-O for the mold, Reddi Whip for the stripes, and blueberries for the stars.  It was truly a thing of beauty.  I however, flunked Jell-O making 101, and am not real big on making desserts anyway.

I needed something fast, easy, and red, white and blue.  Enter the magnificent, easy-to-prepare, looks impressive, Fourth of July Trifle.  Everybody, and I mean everybody loves this.

Edible patriotism at its best!

Edible patriotism at its best!

EASY 4TH OF JULY TRIFLE:

1 store bought angel food cake, cubed 1” squares (or make your own)

1 box large instant vanilla pudding, made according to package

1 container Cool Whip, defrosted

1 large container strawberries, washed, dried, and sliced

1 large container blueberries, washed and dried

3-4 sliced bananas

Glass container/bowl

Begin by putting a light layer of prepared pudding in the bottom of the bowl.  Top with cubed angel food cake (It is important to keep in mind, at this point, that a trifle is a layered desert, and you want to get the maximum effect from the size dish that you are using).  Next: a layer of pudding, a layer of sliced strawberries and bananas, and a layer of Cool Whip.  Follow up with a layer of pudding (lightly spread to keep the layers intact), and a layer of blueberries and bananas, followed with a layer of Cool Whip.  Repeat layers for a red, white, and blue effect.  End by spreading Cool Whip on top of cake (like frosting), and topping with sliced strawberries and blueberries.

A Plus:  You can make this “light” by using sugar free pudding, and light Cool Whip.

Enjoy!!!

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What’s In a Name: Part One

Photo Credit: People Equation

Photo Credit: People Equation

By Jennifer (Smith) Schuler

I hate my name. Well, parts of it anyway. Let me explain …

Several years ago, I asked my mother why she chose the name Jennifer for me. She responded this way: “Well, I was going to name you Jessica. But then I knew some ‘dumb jerk’ would start calling you ‘Jesse.’” I don’t know about you, but I can’t quite figure out why my mom thought naming me Jennifer would be much better as far as name butchering. That name has given people endless possibilities, and apparently license, to call me whatever version they wish–many of which I don’t like!

When I started school, I was called Jennifer until the first year of middle school in the fifth grade. It was the first day of school our well-meaning homeroom teacher said to let her know if we have a shorter version of our name, or a nickname we prefer to be called. This teacher also lived near my family and knew us well, and she knew the affectionate nickname my family had given me (no chance I’m sharing–sorry!). So when she began roll call and called out the name of another Jennifer in the class, that girl said she liked to be called ‘Jenny.’ So, Jenny it would be. When she called my name, however, I said that Jennifer was fine. Yet it didn’t end here. The teacher then asked me if I was “sure” I didn’t have another name I wanted to be called. And … she didn’t let it go until my nickname was “out there.” I was absolutely mortified. My life was ruined. From that point forward I was called that nickname – and I’m convinced that moment was my social undoing as a tween!

When I switched to a private high school, I was thrilled to have the opportunity to be Jennifer again. Yet it was not to be so. My new class was very small–17 of us in all–and coincidentally there ended up being another Jennifer in it. On the first day of school she marched up to me, put her hands on her hips and declared, “My name is Jennifer too. I was here first and go by Jennifer, so you can be Jenny.” Completely intimidated, there I stood once again–my name being imposed on me. So Jenny I was. Over time, I got used to my name and the other Jennifer and I became close friends. I even played with spelling variations of the name–writing it first Jenni, and then Jennie.

Is this the image that comes to mind when you hear the name "Jenna?" It is for me - warm, loving, and lots of fun!

Is this the image that comes to mind when you hear the name “Jenna?” It is for me – warm, loving, and lots of fun!

As I got older, my mother and siblings started calling me Jen, yet I never cared for it. On occasion I have hinted that I don’t like to be called Jen, yet to no avail – that shortened version of my name has already taken hold. Now I am also called Aunt Jen by my nephews. In all correspondence and voicemail messages, however, I refer to myself as ‘Aunt Jennie.’ Has no one picked up on this? Ahhh–that name is now being passed down to younger generations!

When we started dating my husband and I discussed the many variations my name has taken, and I told him I’d never been satisfied with any shortened version. It was then that he came up with Jenna–and I was sold! Soon, his whole family began calling me that and eventually, if I developed a new friendship that became close, I asked my friend to call me Jenna. Whatever “a Jenna” is as opposed to “a Jen,” I’m not sure. What I do know though is that I feel most comfortable being Jenna among those with whom I am closest.

Over the course of my life most people have taken my name Jennifer and chopped it down to ‘Jen’–without my permission. This has happened in my social circles and professionally. In recent email correspondence with a newly introduced colleague, he began addressing me as Jen, even though I never signed my name as such. In my professional life, I go by Jennifer only.

I cannot understand why people take liberty with other’s names and think that’s okay. It’s not–it’s rude. I believe a person is entitled to be addressed how they wish. And, if at some point they ask to be called by another name, I think that effort should be made by others. That’s just basic respect.

A couple of years ago I reconnected with a former high school classmate for whom I now work. For his privacy, I will change his name … In high school, he was introduced to me as ‘Sammy’–the shortened version of his name, and nickname by which he was called. When we got back in touch, I learned he was now going by ‘Sam,’ and figured he just found this change to be more socially mature for his age, or a more professional sounding shortened version. I’m really not sure why the change, and I did find it hard to make after being used to calling him Sammy for so long. However, I made the change out of respect for him. I’m still not quite used to it, but if he wants to be called Sam, then Sam it is. Besides, Sam is now my boss so he can be called whatever he likes!

Many people take liberty and license to call people by any version of their name they like.

Many people take liberty and license to call people by any version of their name they like.

Addressing someone by the name they prefer shows respect for that person. Imposing a name on someone that you choose does not. The following is a list of etiquette tips for addressing people which may be used in social situations, as well as the business world:

  • Address a person using the name by which you are introduced – unless and until they tell you otherwise. For example, a new employee at work is introduced to you as ‘Michael.’ You shake hands and continue to address him as Michael until he says, “Please, call me Mike.” Then, Mike it is!
  • If you are unsure as to what name a person would like to be addressed, ask.
  • Don’t make assumptions. Because one person goes by ‘Mike,’ not all Michael’s wish to be addressed as such.
  • In regular situations, it is best to use both a person’s first and last name when making introductions. To use only a first name is not introducing the total person.
  • In a professional setting, keep the forms of address equal. If you use Ms. Smith, you must use Mr. Brown. You should not say, “Mary, this is Mr. Brown.”
  • Mention something about the people you are introducing. This will give them a starting point for their own conversation. “Mary Smith, this is Joe Brown. Joe shares your alma mater.”

In Part Two of “What’s In a Name?” I will share how to make proper business introductions. In the meantime, feel free to share any name butcher or blunder stories you have and how you’ve handled it! Have your experiences affected name(s) you have chosen for your children?

What’s Not to Like About Winter?

Snow Shovel

Who needs a fancy treadmill when a simple shovel and free snow will do the trick?!

By Jen Ashenfelter

There’s plenty of negativity and whining throughout social media. In an effort to always look at the glass half full, I offer you these thoughts on the recent string of snow storms blanketing my little slice of Pennsylvania–might I add–before the “official” start of the winter season. (Tiny bit of snarkiness intended…)

• Shoveling snow is great exercise which I don’t seem to get much of lately. I love that my entire body, right down to the tips of my fingers reminds me of this glorious fact for days following my winter workout.
• Working from home on snowy days allows me to be with the kids during a two-hour delay, and I don’t have to drive on the roads with the rest of the yahoos. This also gives me additional opportunities for exercise (read the previous point) as there’s no one else at home to shovel the driveway before everyone returns home or to clear the deck and backyard for the dog to do her business.

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Shoveling the deck and part of the backyard for the dog is one of the many perks of working from home when it snows….

• I love the refreshing crisp air nipping at my nose and giving me goose bumps because it clears my sinuses and the cool 68 degrees inside my house feels amazingly warmer than it did before I went outside. Venturing into the winter wonderland frequently, especially without a coat, is a great way to save money on heating my home.
• Living in Pennsylvania, I get to experience all four seasons which makes me appreciate three of them so much more and gives me the chance to lovingly invite Mother Nature to “bite me” every winter.
• Cabin fever takes me back to my days as a real estate agent because I begin to notice all the positives about my home. This comes in handy as I offer Realtors the opportunity to sell my home because I’m moving to Southern California…

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“No really honey, I’ll be happy to shovel the driveway by myself before everyone gets home.”